Monday, January 16, 2017

Leaning Into Four

January 3rd I made a parenting change in my life. Jack turned 4 on November 7th but it took something on January 3rd to see that Jack was growing up. I don't even know exactly what it was but I looked at him and I just realized how much he had grown up. I decided I was going to commit myself to leaning into Jack being four. He'll be five before I know it and five is big kid. I want to to fully take in each moment of Jack being four.



Oh what a difference this has made in our lives. Y'all if I would have known the good that would have come from this then I would have done it forever ago. So what exactly has changed? Well I will try and explain.

As a mom it is impossible to do everything your child wants you to do. Before this change I would do stuff with Jack but I never really loved playing trains or match for the 100th time. Once I saw it as such a fleeting moment my whole prespective changed. Now don't get me wrong, I still can't play Pop the Pig every single time he asks but I'm saying yes a whole LOT more. My goal is to really embrace each moment I can and be completely in the moment.

It's so great seeing the change in Jack as well as in myself. Since I've calmed down, Jack has calmed down. I use to be so anxious, feeling rushed through one moment to get to the next one. I'm letting so many things go to focus on Jack and it has been so freeing. We've had so many great moments since January 3rd and I feel like we are both just really enjoying each other.

We've played so much. I've played numberous games of Pop the Pig and match. I don't always even want to play but I think about his joy and it makes me want to do what he wants to do. The other day we jumped on the trampoline for like an hour and had a leaf fight. Jack had so much joy and it just filled my heart.

When he is being difficult I am no longer matching his frustration. I'm staying calm and it has made such a difference. I can get him calm a lot faster and we aren't butting heads as much. The more he gets use to this new way, the more he has relaxed and has been such a different kid. Instead of Jack looking for mischief he is turning to me more to say what he wants. He requires a lot of my attention. He is a naturally mischievious child. Thankfully me leaning into him has eased a lot of that and I think because he is getting so much positive attention that he isn't seeking negative attention.

Life has been so much more pleasant since that great day when I saw Jack as a baby who will soon be my big boy. This transformation in my parenting goes directly with my word for 2017-foundation. I'm completely dedicated to building a strong foundation for us.

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

My Word for 2017 + Goals

This year for Christmas I was gifted Lara Casey's Powersheets. At the beginning of December I really started thinking about what I wanted for 2017. This past year wasn't just awful but I didn't make the progress I wanted to. Of course there are some areas that I was weaker in than others (paying off debt and reading more). I actually lost about 15 pounds but I'm still far from where I want to be (I'll get into more about that later).



I made my way through the Powersheets prep and after really thinking about it I picked the word

FOUNDATION

I'm going to start celebrating every bit of progress I make towards my bigger goals. I'm in a season of life where my days consist of working and caring for Jack. There is little time to pursue big dreams or have alone time. That is okay. 

There are some basic areas in life that I need to focus on to build a better foundation to a better life for Jack and I. Here are some areas I want to work on.

HEALTH: 
  • Move more
  • Drink more water
  • Eat breakfast
  • Bring lunch to work
  • Cut out middle of the night snacking (I had stopped and 
FINANCES:
  • Spend less
  • Pay off as much debt as possible
  • Start a savings account
  • Check my bank balance daily
  • Use mint to track expenses
FAITH
  • Attend church more often
  • Read scripture
  • Pray more often
  • Listen to more faith based podcasts
PERSONAL
  • Read a book a month
  • Take one hot bubble bath a week
  • Do three girls night out this year
  • Cultivate the relationships within my personal circle-close family, a few coworkers, a few friends, and some online friendships
  • Continue with my Powersheets



Monday, January 2, 2017

Life Update: Christmas and Such

Christmas has come and gone. In two short days I'll be heading back to work. December was a fun month. We watched lots of Christmas movies and some made Jack cry. He is a rough and tough kid but he sure has a heart. Christmas morning I made the Pioneer Woman cinnamon rolls...they were AMAZING! Bennett spent lots of time here with us and every once in awhile the boys would NOT fight. Maybree has gotten obsessed with hugging everyone-it is super cute. Our work did their annual Christmas Ugly Sweater Party and I wore the same one but I was told that red is my color. On the 20th I went to Jack's Christmas party and once he saw me he was ready to go. I got him to stay for a picture with Santa but that was about it. 



This whole time I never thought that the idea of Christmas morning was sinking in with Jack until 4 am Christmas morning when he was in the living room opening gifts in the dark. Thankfully it didn't take me too long to hear him and was able to see him open the majority of his gifts. He loved everything he got and especially loved the bags of air inside the Amazon boxes. Free toys!


I took all my Christmas stuff down the day after Christmas. I organized and cleaned everything. I even put some of Jack's gifts away for a rainy day. I too got lots of great gifts including Powersheets, boots, a projector, and a few different pair of earrings. Santa was good to us all. 

I'm excited about the New Year and am still narrowing down my one word and my goals. I hope to post about them soon.

Happy 2017!